DO NOT CONFUSE SEXUAL FANTASIES WITH PERVERSION!
Fantasizing is absolutely natural. Since children we use fantasies (in this case not necessarily sexual) for the development, exploration and knowledge of the world around us, for example: the child who, during play, changes roles and becomes the mother or the teacher, or even a superhero. The fantasies are in our imagination and do not depend on the physical presence of the stimulus, that is, they do not always happen in real life. They help to sharpen our senses: Vision, hearing, touch, taste and smell. Therefore, sexual fantasies can be used in a beneficial, positive and even therapeutic way to increase arousal, improve the quality of sex and sexuality itself as a whole.
Various sexual fantasies come up against themes related to paraphilias such as: looking at others having sex, having sex in public, having sex with more than one person at the same time, dressed as the opposite sex, using instruments for penetration, practicing violent sex, sadomasochistic sex, sex homosexuals ... Hence the confusion arises.
But one thing is quite different from the other, because in sexual fantasy the person is acting out, exercising his imagination, acting. In perversion he really feels what he practices, being attached to it. Sexual fantasy also has its harmful and pathological character. when it crosses the border of the imaginary with the fulfillment of his desire with which he does not identify. They must never harm the other nor become a recurring and obsessive theme for those who feel. Being fantasized 24 hours a day and not having a head for nothing else is not natural. More than that, it compromises the individual in his other social roles.
RELATIONSHIP SEASON
Rice and beans every day can be good, just vary the seasoning! That was the marketing appeal of a sex shop and in fact the word seasoning is an excellent synonym to describe sexual fantasies. Sexual fantasies are very useful for couples who they want to get out of the tour, to those who want to get to know each other better, to spice up stagnant relationships, or even to circumvent the day-to-day stress, create an oasis in the midst of so many obligations.
CURIOSITY
Do you reveal your sexual fantasies? The partner does not always reveal to the other what their sexual fantasies are. Data from a survey conducted by the Brazilian Society for the Study of Human Sexuality (Sbrash) with 1039 internet users, revealed that:
- Only a third of people often share their fantasies with partners.
- 93.1% of men admit to having sexual fantasies against 89.4% of women.
- 76% of women have fantasies with their usual partners.
- As for men, only 49.7% of them say they fantasize about their girlfriends or wives.
SEXUAL FANTASIES TO RELIEVE PAIN?
Peter Staats, MD, director of the Division of Pain Medicine at Johns Hopkins University, conducted a study proving that sexual fantasies can be pain-relieving. In the 1999 study, researchers asked 40 college students to submerge their hands in a water tank with ice, and evaluate the pain on a scale of 0 to 10, trying to stay as long as possible with their hands inside the tank. Then they asked to repeat the experiment, only this time the students should think simultaneously about a fantasy Most of them managed to keep their hands in the cold tank for longer, increasing the tolerance time from 1 to 3 minutes. The study was an attempt to approach the emotional response to pain with a positive emotional response, that is, with less anxiety, irritability and tension, he can ease it.